Broaching the subject of masking with a partner

 So I've been alluding to this for probably years now, that I'll broach the subject of masking with my partner and perhaps make some content to share. 

I keep finding myself chickening out when brining up the subject of masking with my partner. In the past, shared my masking fetish with a friend that became a semi-brief and semi-complicated romantic relationship. I had a few sexual masking sessions with this person I'll refer to as R. 
R was/is trans, very open to gender play, very open to using prosthetics, etc. I shared pictures of masking with them and they were always very supportive, but when it came to actually playing with them (or having sex) while masked, I could feel that things would suddenly become awkward. 

At this point, R and I had become very close as friends and had also crossed the threshold of being sexual partners (this was years ago). They were a good sport with masking, however it felt more like they tolerated it, rather than enjoyed it. While masked, I started feeling more silly than sexual and from these exchanges, I ended up recognizing that masking was something I would only be doing in private (by myself). Since it felt especially uncomfortable to be so vulnerable with someone to be received in a way where it was clear that they were 'trying their best' to go along with things. 

I was hoping that sharing masking and playing with R would have been an experience that would build up my confidence with masking with others. However, it did quite the opposite. R was never derisive or judgmental of me outwardly, but after our few masking sessions, it felt like our connection became strained and awkward. For various other reasons, we dropped out of touch, but the impression from the experience remained. 

With my current partner, we've had some sexual exchanges where I've been masked, but only while she's been blindfolded. It's only after the fact that I'd let her know I was wearing a mask, to which she seemed to have no response or concern about. I've also told her that I was wearing a mask and she was wearing a head-covering since we were making these videos, therefore it encouraged anonymity. However, I haven't directly stated that masking is an interest of mine and it's getting to a point where I'm very much wanting to make some videos with her while she is wearing a female mask. 

For our videos so far, I feel like I haven't been very up front in basically saying afterwards, "oh yea, I was wearing a mask," but never really stating my interest in masking. I think that if I simply pull out a silicone mask for her to wear and say, "put it on, it'll make you anonymous for a video," it may not be received well. I worry that without proper context that she will take it as me saying/thinking that she is ugly or that I want to sleep with someone else (hence put on a different face). So I don't want to offend her in any way, but it feels like in order to avoid this, I'll need to open up and be vulnerable again. Given my experience with R, I'm somewhat worried about this. 

So I'm curious if others have had experience with introducing masking to their romantic partners? If you have, how did you do it and how did it go? Does your partner participate in masking with you? What are some of the great things and not so great things that go along with it? 

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The plan I have now basically falls into a few categories:
1) present the mask and say that it's for one of our videos and that it would be useful to make her anonymous for the xxx clip. 

2) present her mask and my mask (mine is male) and approach it like a fun 'role play' scenario. Probably having an initial show and tell session with her, then later do a full dress-up session + a video (if all goes well). 

3) Sit her down and discuss my interest in masking and history with masks, then gauge interest from there. (this is the option I think is best, but also feel like I'll chicken out and not go through with the conversation). 

I think the hardest obstacle that I face with my partner is that our schedules don't sync up very well. Most of the time we only see each other right when we wake up and are getting ready for work or around 10pm-12am where she's coming home and feverishly eating a very late dinner, then promptly going to sleep. Much of the time at night when she gets home, I'm typically already in bed. 

The ideal share scenario I've been waiting for and hoping for is one where it's not the middle of the night, we're about to become intimate, then I initiate one of these conversations. The few times this has happened, we've typically worn latex and had sex or I wear something and have sex. It's been a very few and far between occasion and when these opportunities arise I think, "ok, we have this conversation and it totally ruins the mood and I miss the chance to have some fetishy sex OR we have some fetishy sex," and in the past I have always chosen the latter. As of now, my basic plan is to wait for this next opportunity and go with one of the options above, based on how the situation feels. But I did want to get a sense of whether anyone reading has had similar experiences and had any tips or suggestions to share? I'm also just open to suggestions in general, so thank you all in advance who comment. Thanks!

New video series on C4S

So much to my surprise, clips4sale accepted and allowed me to post a sex video with me and my partner. I was expecting to get blocked in the same way I've been getting blocked on only fans and other sites. So I wasn't anticipating that it would work, I'm also not a huge fan of this first video, it was mostly uploaded to test if it'll work more than something I'm actually proud of. However, a few things about this and more videos that I upload with myself and my partner. 

I gather that our sex/play videos are completely different than the other videos/content I've put up over the years. So I wanted to explain a few things before I'm sharing/uploading more. 
1) A portion of the reason my partner is willing to put these videos online is on some level to make some money from them. Therefore the general structure of the cost of these videos will be 2$ for every 1 minute. We may shift the cost structure some in the future, however videos involving the two of us will generally be more expensive, so that will likely remain a fixed feature. 

2) Sable (my partner) is more inclined toward bondage than anything else, so for the most part, these videos will be more latex/bondage focused. 
3) I understand tonally that these sex/play videos probably better belong on a different site altogether. For now they'll share the C4S site with my other material, but I'll keep poking around online to find a different home for these videos.

4) if Sable and I break up, I plan to pull the videos from the internet, so it's unclear how many will be made or how long they will be up for. (it's not like things are really unstable between us, but we just updated our consent agreement (which I think is partially why these videos were approved for upload) so this was something that was recently discussed).

On a somewhat related topic: does anyone know of any female masks that are particularly small in size? Or at least not male-head sized? 

The 'scene'

 Hi everyone, trying to keep up with some updates, even without big news or content to share. 

I've been searching around a little on instagram and facebook recently, which ironically has become centers for maskers (which I think is a good thing). But it feels like masking has branched in a few directions and I've also seen lots of comments about how "filters are ruining masking." 

So I just wanted to see what others take is on if and how the masking 'scene' has changed? 

What are your thoughts about "filters" and if they're making a big impact on masking? 

I personally don't have really strong feelings about any of it, since I've been out of the 'scene' for a while and when I was in it, my main motivation was to have female masking representation out on the internet. With the hope of drafting some new interest in masking for the next generation to take on and push into the future. Which in hindsight was sort of a grandiose and unnecessary mission, since I think it would have been fine with or without me.

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Célia GERACI
Personally, I find that filters are a cancer for the masking community. I estimate that 95% of maskers use them, especially newcomers. Thanks to the filter, there is no need for makeup and some use the filters without even bothering to adjust the mask. Some even use the filter to thin their own bodies and make themselves more feminine. They tend to hide their obesity through filters. However, when they do live, without filters, the result is particularly horrible.

In my opinion, I NEVER use filters and I NEVER will. My work is 100% natural and without filter, to the point that I plan to post with the hastag #nofilter or #photoshop.

It’s only my opinion, of course, but for me, a masker who uses a filter, I find that his work no longer has any interest.

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Anima -
I can see the frustration with filters more easily now. Maybe I've seen a number of them without even realizing it. I do remember when the "smile" filter came out and suddenly many maskers had smiles on their pictures, which was momentarily interesting, then when I realized what was going on, I found them less interesting. So I suppose I share your viewpoint miss Geraci. I'm personally a big fan of practical effects in movies, so I'd say that this is probably the closest analogy I can use to express a similar sentiment.

However to play devils' advocate; 
I'd say that many maskers, myself included, are ones that mask in isolation, where the joy of masking is split into two categories: the experience of being masked and viewing the content one takes (images and videos). Whether using filters or not, the experience of masking should be fairly similar, if not the same if primarily using a mirror. Although, with filters, it makes the content potentially much more enjoyable or more desirable. 

Masking (for me at least) is an odd thing, where sometimes the experience of masking itself is not particularly exciting/enticing, so my enjoyment of a number of masking sessions has been entirely when going through the images and videos. So for those in this category, at least people using filters can enjoy the content portion of their masking session more. However, I'd say that for others viewing these images/videos, the content is essentially tainted.. but if the person taking the images/videos doesn't mind it, then I don't think it's necessarily a horrible thing (if it's enhancing their personal experience). 

There have always been maskers out there who have been so elated and excited by the masking process, where their joy is real, but their presentation is.. lacking in ways. However, I don't mean to sound critical, I think it's lovely when these maskers share themselves online and at times I've been this masker, so again, no criticism. If you're feeling pretty and having a great masking session and want to snap shots off even when everything isn't perfect, go ahead, we all want to see it! But I would agree, to others when using filters it is a little bit misleading feeling. I also think with all the resources being dumped into AI, this is likely something that's here to stay. 

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Jess

I've gotta agree with the sentiment of filters and photoshop being a bad thing for masking. Both due to the resasons already mentioned, but also, if you're just gonna manipulate the pixels to look how you want then what was the point of using a mask in the first place? Doesn't it kind of defeat the purpose entirely? Why not just just edit the hell out of an unmasked photo, or just use AI to generate what you want?

And don't get me started on the "Chinese beauty filter" that's present on a huge number of videos from China (must be built into a popular app or platform or something), that in my opinion makes most people look worse (huge eyes and a super narrow chin just don't look good to me, I guess) as well as being rather distracting as it occasionally loses face tracking and flickers on and off.

I also refuse to use any filters or do any manipulation (other than basic brightness/contrast and background removal), and all of my photos are exactly what I see in the mirror.

I've also got to admit to being a bit crotchety and old-fashioned about how platforms like FB/IG/whatever-the-kids-use-nowadays treat their users and refuse to ever use them so I have much less exposure to this kind of stuff than most.

I guess if anybody's interested in an anonymous imageboard (4chan-like) site for masking-related stuff, feel free to check out/post on my site.

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Anima

Thank you for the comment Jess. The more I'm hearing from you all, the more sold I am getting on the photo-manipulation being a bad thing or perhaps a different thing altogether. 
To the end of your imageboard site for masking-related stuff, yes I'd love to check your site out. Can you drop a link in the comments for us? (EDIT) 
So if you're interested in checking out the site Jess is referencing above, please click the "comments" button below this post and click "Jess" written in blue and you'll be taken to the page. 

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Jess

>Can you drop a link in the comments for us?

Sure. I put it in the URL field for the 'Name/URL' identity option, which should make my name clickable. If that doesn't show up for whatever reason, here's a direct link:
https://qchan.dyndns.org/bs/

Also, I really need to come up with a better domain name... if anybody's got suggestions for a new name, I'd love to hear it.

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Anonymous asked - On a separate subject, where is a good place to connect and meet with other Maskers?

Anima - I'm honestly not really sure. My best guess would be on facebook, instagram, tiktok or reddit. However, I generally don't seek connection with other maskers, or at least I have not for  years. So hopefully some people can chime in here with some better and more specific suggestions.  

Juicy Silicone Body

 I'm finally getting a little time to put out some older content out, so here is the first of a number of at least a few more updates coming. 

I there is a full video on my C4S site, so click here to see the page with this clip!

It's still Fall

 Just in the past day or so I've had an uptick in the sale of some of my videos. By that I mean that someone bought something! So thank you to the couple of you that purchased some videos in the past few days! 

I think a part of my excitement is seeing that my C4S site is actually functioning again! (around the time of my previous burst of posts my C4S account was not working) I think I'm going to stop updating my pornHub account altogether, since their whole model has become more like youtube where all revenue is gathered via ads. So I'll likely use my PH account just to provide any previews for any newly released videos and have the rest of my content live on C4S moving forward. However, I have no set plans to make new videos and I'm really not sure when I'll have time to put out unreleased content. However, all told I think I only have a few videos + image sets that haven't been released yet. 

I'll keep trying with OnlyFans, however it was a struggle with them before, one which I didn't win, so I feel a little defeated by that platform. 

Not a big update, but I'm trying to get a little more regular here

It's Fall!

Starting from the end and working backwards. I finally dressed as fem for the first time in.. about a year? 
It was fun, but not quite what I expected. 
I just felt the urge to dress so I thought, ok I'll try on this surf-suit, now I'll put on these hip pads, how about this top? and it kept going. So I didn't really go into this dressing session with a plan. So I ended up running out of time early, which meant no wig. 

Over the past couple months I've had the urge to dress on some occasions, but I'm finding myself just wanting to snap my fingers and have everything on. I used to enjoy the process of dressing, but now (or at least this time) it felt more like work. I can't tell if it's me just getting older and busier or if something is really changing in terms of my interest in female masking. I do have to say, I continue to enjoy female masking in concept, but I find myself either lazier or with less time and opportunity to do it. 

This last time dressing I was hit with an old feeling with masking that wasn't really the wonderful homecoming I was expecting. 
For many years with masking I've felt somewhat frustrated with masking, since I've been feeling like I've been trying to fit a square peg into a circular hole or like I'm ice skating uphill. It may not be all that clear here, but my upper body is larger and more defined than it's been in the past, which has made creating the ideal dimensions even more difficult. It's also posing more issues with finding the right size of garments to wear. 
I suppose the shortened version of what I'm saying is that there's always been some part of me that has felt disappointed when masking. Like I could have done something better or I'm feeling frustrated at some body part proportion or that I can achieve a good look, but only from a specific angle while I'm postured in a specific way. 

Most of the images I've shared are ones where I feel like I'm approaching creating a more idealized or believable female form, however even within those dressing sessions, much of the time I'm lamenting over my inability to achieve the dimensions or look that I am hoping for. I certainly envy the maskers and cross dressers who are very thin, particularly with thin necks and thin arms. However, I also think that these people have to work for their look, so I'm not suggesting that I'm just genetically cursed while these people have it easy. I think it's always hard when trying to straddle the uncanny valley and swap genders. 

For the past.. year or so, I've dressed more in masculine form, even with masking, as opposed to feminine. The main motivation for this has been the relationship that I've been in and that my partner has awareness of my prosthetics and latex fetish, but she is still unaware of my female masking and cross dressing fetish. So in the past year, I've probably dressed in masculine form about 1x/mo while in fem form 1x/year. I've been finding myself enjoying dressing in masculine form and in ways it's felt very opposite to my experience dressing as fem, in that my basic build and frame already lend itself to the male form, so building a more ideal male form is much simpler and the result is more believable. However, it's less exotic and interesting I have to admit. But it's made it very clear to me that I'm highly interested in disguise and prosthetics, but what I'm trying to transform myself into is less important. 

I do suppose that a major difference between dressing as masc and fem is what to do when all dressed up. When dressed as fem, taking pictures of myself and looking in the mirror and getting that 'brain breaking' feeling when seeing a nice shapely body in the mirror is exciting in itself. When dressing as masc, it's interesting and exciting, but once fully dressed I'm normally having sex, so it's hard for me to know what dressing solo in masc form would be like outside of being in a relationship and whether it would feel unfinished somehow. Like cooking a meal and not being able to eat it. 

Video and relationship update:
So my partner and I made a few videos earlier this year, however we never put them online anywhere, since we got blocked by the various online platforms where I have sold videos in the past. 
My partner is pretty clear that she would want to be compensated somehow if the videos were online. However, things in my relationship have been pretty rocky since about March. So these videos may unfortunately never see the light of day since if we split or separate, I wouldn't put them online for mostly moral but also legal reasons. 

But through the relationship I recognize that when I'm sexually satisfied my inclination to female mask is greatly diminished. However, my desire to wear latex and do some sort of sexual dress up is not heavily impacted. Which makes me wonder about the longevity of my female masking. I wonder if I'll end up becoming more of a female mask + fetish writer as opposed to a contributor, we will see. I think there's a big new generation of female maskers sharing online, which is great and I'm beginning to feel more and more like it is their time now and whatever I share online will no longer be for the fetish or the community, but more just to occasionally feel validated in my interests, even though the images and content I put out won't be anything for people to get overly excited about. 

I have more thoughts in my head, but as of lately a bit more time on my hands, so with any luck, I'll be posting up more regularly here soon (I feel like I say this with nearly every post, so take that statement with a grain of salt)

 

More Technical Issues

 Wow, this new online environment is sort of nutty. I've been trying to get my profile updated so I can upload to C4S again, however I've been in process with them for just updating basic information for about 3 weeks now. Then with only-fans, I'm unsure if I'll be getting on there really, since my profile has been rejected about 8 times now. I guess in this new world of verifying identities, it doesn't support mask+total enclosure fetish. 

In the meantime my partner and I are continuing to plan and make more content (not much at this point), so when it does come through we'll have things to share.